Is should a challenging word, especially when used as an auxiliary verb to denote obligation, duty or correctness? It is actually the past tense of shall? How is that explained? Good question, but not the focus of this blog. The effects of living a life of “should” is the focus.

Why do people do or not do what they should do? Is the should do task often chosen over items of greater priority or importance? Do people do what they should do over something that resonates with their goals? Too often is the enjoyment of family or the chance to relax or a mindfulness practice skipped to do the expected, should do thing? Does giving in to the should, diminish our ability to choose and have some control? Do people develop habits of daily repetition and stay stuck by doing what they should?

“Should is my all-time least favorite word. It is this sort of guilt inducing, finger wagging word that we use to beat up others and ourselves.”–Frank Beddor

Is should worthy of placement on the banned word list or the do not utter list? If the word is removed from a person’s vocabulary, what would be the benefits?

Does an internally induced should imply a lack of something or a lack of not doing enough? Is this something that could actually undermine self-esteem?

Is should a word that you could leave out of your vocabulary? Who decides what you should do, anyway? Do you make decisions for yourself? What should you do about your use of this word? What can you do about it? What will you do? Is it worth considering?

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