Why is it that so many people prefer to blame something or someone for their own failings? Is it that difficult to accept responsibility for our own actions?
Instead of point and click do we point and deny? Do people even prefer to point and blame?
Does this process begin early in life? Do parents model this mind-set for their children?
Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.” – Ralph Marston
Is it exacerbated when parents try to protect their children from the consequences of their actions; arguing with teachers over grades earned, blaming referees and coaches for the child’s mistakes; making excuses for their failure to complete tasks? Can children learn to abandon a sense of responsibility and rely on their parents “to fix everything”?
Is avoiding blame an obvious goal for refusing to accept responsibility? What other advantages are there for such denials? Do these actions sometimes develop into habits? Can some develop a consistent pattern of non-responsibility?
On the other hand, what advantages are gained when one accepts responsibility for their actions? Are there immediate and longtime benefits from taking responsibility? Can these actions, also develop into a habit?
Are you someone who embraces responsibility or one who refuses to accept responsibility? Whichever pattern you follow, are you aware of the effect your modeling of that behavior has on your friends, family and loved ones? Are you aware of the effect accepting or denying responsibility has on your own self-esteem? Would it be of value for you to review your mind-set about responsibility?